I‘ve had a checkered history (at best) when it comes to friendships. It took me 20 years to realize I was bullied as a kid, a good eight to realize that I was sensitive to the core but fumbled when dealing with emotions, and a solid three to realize that I had some truly shady people around me. I think I realized I had BFFs when a handful of people started kindly pointing out these things.
Like anything, these things take time to figure out. And maybe starting now isn’t exactly a bad thing. We listed down five questions you have to ask yourself to find out if someone is your BFF. These are basic principles that take time to test and stress-proof. It takes a lot of compassion and forgiveness, and maybe one of your BFFs (should one even make it) will even fail this test at some point. It’s up to you to decide. Maybe the only way you can see if your friends pass this test is if you value your relationship with yourself first. But when we think we’re undeserving, there are the people who love us anyway, and that, I think, is the most important BFF trait.